Many people asks to me whya and when I started to wear ballet flats if they are considered women shoes nowadays.
Why: Because since I was a child I always disliked to lace my shoes and wear socks, my feet felt uncomfortable and too warm, I usually took off that kind of shoes and remove the socks to be barefeet or in slippers, so my mom understood that and allowed me to wear flip flops most of the time. But, by experience flip flops does not protect too much our feet and I had 2 or 3 painful experiences: someone that crushed my toes accidentally , one time that I was running and one flip flop slipped off and I fell down, and hurting my toes with a table’s legs cause I didn’ t Watch well the distance between my feet and the table’s edge !! it was painful at the moment, so I looked as a teenager for shoes that were comfortable easy to slip on/off, could be worn barefeet and of course protected my feet more than my sandals. I tried the famous top siders moccasin in the 80’s but I got blisters and they didn’t have any arch support , the rubber soles tended to came off the shoe, and some of the shoe dye infused in my feet so I had blue feet for a while 😀
When: My first experience wearing flats was at the age of 12. I was living with my aunt, a attractive young woman in her early 30´s and former ballet dancer. She always wore flats with skirts or capris. I love how comfy and easy to slip off her flats were. So one day that she was out of home, I went straight to her room and I opened her closet. l grabbed a cute pair of well worn light blue bow flats (the brand was Crayons) they looked similar to this ones:
and I took off my flip flops and slip on in her flats… what amazing feeling !! , I feel happy, comfortable and free. Finally I could wear a footwear that it is a the same time a shoe and a slipper !! I wore them during all the day. When my aunt was out home I did it again, and again.
One day my aunt arrived early and she caught me wearing her flats. I was speechless, thinking the worst.But She looked me at the eyes, and I only could said: “I am so sorry, I hope you aren´t angry, I..I will explain to you…” she only smiled and winked to me and said to me: “don´t worry my dear, I am your aunt and I always noticed how much you watched my flats and feet, you are young a need to experience what makes you happy”. She gave a hug, and allowed me to wear her flats everyday, in fact she bought a similar pair for her, so we both, were wearing flats at home.It was the happiest period of my life !
Then during my 20´s I came back to my parents home, so I had to wear them at my room or when my parents were out. After that I started to take ballet classes and I understood that my hobbies and fashions likes don´t determine my sexual preference and that I must be open and honest with my family and close friends.
After moving to Canada, few years ago, I discovered that it was hard to find men shoes that I liked in my size, so I didn´t plan to wear only boys shoes and flip flops, so I went to payless and GAP and I tried and bought 2 pairs of flats. I wore them at home and one day my brother watched at me wearing them, he asked me if I was gay, I said no, I love girls but I find this shoes really comfortable and I like them. It took time to him to digest the idea but now we only make jokes and no more than this.
Wearing flats on public was difficult at first but I wore them with mens jeans and a nice shirt and people looked more at my shirt rather than my flats, only few girls asked me where did I bought them, or they said that they liked or even one cute sales clerk swapped flats with me. Most of the women are supportive and find original and even sexy when a man wears flats (try with ballet slippers and the result is much better), and some of them told me that everybody can wear flats as they are slippers.And I completely agree.
And this why and when I started to wear this comfortable and nice shoes and honestly even my feet health is quit bit better than wearing very close and heavy shoes (I had tendinitis in my Achilles heel while wearing men shoes because the shoe heel was made internally of solid wood !!) and when shopping flats are really practical, specially when I tried many pairs of jeans I can slip off easily my flats and try the pants comfortably or in a shoe store , it ‘ s a pleasure just to take off my ballerinas and try many sandals of other flats or sneakers without the hasle to put on/off socks and lace or untie men shoes …just practical shoes..as technician and men , flats are a time saving footwear ..just for fun I measure the time to put on socks , slip on in my sneakers and lace them = 47 seconds vs slip on in my flats = 5.5 seconds…and no, I not the kind of lazy guys who force their feet into their laced shoes haha cause it hurts !!
Do you have similar stories guys to share? Ladies your thoughts about a man wearing flats, or if your son or nephew would ask to you to wear flats or other “feminine” garment or activity considered “for girls” such as ballet lessons?
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